Pico not connecting

Hey all, found you guys after doing some googling and not being able to fix my issue with the help available online. I just bought 2 picos, but they didn't connect with any of the micro-USB cables I had. Seeing that there was often a problem with non-data cables, I bought one online that had all 4 wires and some comments from people saying they used it with their raspberry pis. Got the "connecting" blip for the first time, file explorer pops up, and I see the data for about 10 seconds... then it dc's again and now nothing. I've tried a few ports on my desktop and it's just silent again. Diskpart doesn't show them. Any help appreciated, thanks!

Read the https://discord.com/channels/818384379197784084/1194546099575341117 and the Pico related

Appreciated, but the issue is I'm not even getting to step 1 in these

Update though: I left one plugged in, and after 2-4 hours, my computer starts making the USB connect/disconnect sound over and over for a couple minutes. Was playing a game, so I couldn't tell if anything had happened. Maybe an hour later it does it again once or twice, and the file folder for the pico pops up again. It has suddenly decided to work. Got the program on it, and now it's good to go, behaves normally If anyone has experienced the same or has theories as to why this happened, I'll gladly take them. I haven't had time to see if the other works now too, but I'm leaning towards it being an issue related to my desktop